It’s exciting when you start your own business but it can also be scary, overwhelming and, if you let it, stressful. It’s like getting into a new relationship. At first, you’re so so excited. Maybe at first you skyrocket, but then after a while you plateau or even go down. Or maybe you’ve felt like you’ve just been churning your wheels in the mud and not going anywhere from the get go. I get it. I’ve been there. I think we’ve all been there before once or twice or maybe even multiple times.
So, what is it? Why are you so stuck? One of the primary reasons that I have struggled so much is because I get into my head waaaayyy too much. I believe these stories that I tell myself that is complete and utter bullshit. I would laugh about them if I wasn’t too busy believing them at that moment. It’s those stories that we tell ourselves that are bald face lies.
“I’m not smart enough.”
“I’m not good enough.”
“I don’t deserve success.”
“I can’t do things like so and so does.”
“I don’t have enough education.”
“I don’t have the right education.”
“It’s impossible to lose weight.”
Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you’re right. — Henry Ford
Sound familiar? I’m sure you have told yourself these thoughts multiple times and maybe even told yourself other ones, maybe more destructive lies. The are the stories that lies within. Girls are the WORST at telling these false stories to ourselves. We’ve been told our whole life what we should look like, do, aspire to by our parents, our friends, our teachers, our colleagues and many other sources. We even see it in every magazine at the supermarket. Guys are not immune though. They also go through life with these expectations that are set upon their shoulders. This creates your inner stories. The inner monologue that goes on. The voice that when you say “I’m going to do this!” it says “Really? You think you have a shot.”
It’s these stories that become your beliefs. We call them limiting beliefs because they limit the greatness inside of you. Believe me, we were ALL born to be great. We were created in the image of the Creator/universe and he/it is great! You need to flip the script of what you tell yourself. Here are my first 3 ways that you can do that.
- Gratitude- Gratitude is part of such a BIG, positive energy it’s crazy. You literally cannot be mad if you are grateful. You can’t be upset if you are grateful. If you find yourself feeling blue, just recite everything you are grateful for. Start a daily gratitude journal and write things down that you are grateful for every day. It doesn’t have to be big things, maybe it’s something like your hair is on point. Or maybe it’s that you actually went to the gym today. 30 days of journaling and you will see a difference.
- Meditation- It takes a while to learn how to quiet your mind so that you can meditate. It allows you to listen for those whispers of what you are supposed to do. It allows God/the universe to speak to you. Prayer is my time to speak to him, mediation is his time to speak to me. If you can’t do it on your own or struggle, there are great apps that can help you such as Just Be or even great mediations on podcasts and Youtube. Make this a part of your daily routine as well.
- Sticky notes- Write sticky notes with positive affirmations and put them all over the house. If one of your stories is “I am not good enough,” then write down on a sticky “I am enough” and put it everywhere. Write it on the mirror in sharpie. When you see it, say it. Carry a index card in your wallet and pull it out from time to time with your new stories and read it. After a while those lies will silence because your new story is taking over. If your story is “It’s impossible to lose weight” make the sticky note say “It’s easy to lose weight.” It may seem odd at first like that is the lie, but these are absolutely the truth.
Start with these three things and see where it takes you. Let’s start changing those stories within from the lies to the truths. You were meant to be great, you just need the tools to help you. If you have more deep seeded beliefs, you can contact me and we can work through those beliefs and crush the lies so you can break free!
Most importantly. I believe in you! You got this!